VALENTINE’S DAY… Why Every Day Should Be.
I’m back again this year to extend my personal take on Valentine’s Day and luckily enough for me, my wife has the same views. Adding a few more pics from this year’s travels (so excuse those squished in), but with the same message… Every day should be a day of expressing love and appreciation, not just once a year on a Hallmark generated Holiday.
Since I started this blog a few years long ago, my wife Nicole has been the one to look them over before I upload them to correct my endless bad grammar and spelling. I know, can you imagine a writer not being an English major? Luckily, I’ve never claimed to be. Needless to say, when I originally wrote this, I couldn’t have her edit this particular blog since I wanted it to be a bit of a surprise as an ode to her on Valentine’s Day, so excuse any of my writing errors. Hopefully, I’ve learned to improve my skills some over this past couple of years now and there will be quite fewer mistakes than when I first started my writing.
So then why am I releasing a special blog on Valentine’s Day if I basically don’t believe in this so-called Holiday? Why also am I placing this in my “Journey” category? Well, as far as the “Journey” part, I’ll cover more of that in just a bit.
As far as Valentine’s Day, I’m not against any excuse for showing anyone you care about your love for them, it’s just a shame it took a card company to create a day most do that on now because they feel obligated to or else.
Take Nicole and me; I’ve always treasured the little things we do daily since we started dating, to moving in together, to getting married. We always give each other a kiss and say “I Love You” as the other heads off to work. We try to stay up waiting for the other to come home from work, whether she’s closing down her restaurant or I’ve got a show…
We always chit-chat after each other’s work when we’re done, day or night. We always text each other while at work if we can, even though we just saw each other a few hours ago. THOSE are some of the little things that couples don’t always do, that frankly, I couldn’t live without. Heck, we’ve been guilty of even sending cute love texts to each other when we’re on opposite sides of the couch watching TV. Those may be the best of all!
Yet, there’s no card for that, no flowers for that. Speaking of those Valentine traditions, I can’t remember a time I did those “traditional” things for Nicole… because the best time to give a card or flowers is ANYTIME! I love just running into the local grocery store to pick something up and seeing some beautiful flowers, of course getting those for her, “just because.”
The same while stopping at the drug store, passing the card aisle, seeing some cute one, and thinking she will get a kick out of it, and again, getting it for her… “just because.”
Then there’s the scramble to find a place for dinner on Valentine’s Day. That guilty need to take your loved one to a restaurant they’ve always wanted to go to. WHY then on this day? Nicole and I are a bit of “foodies” as they’ve coined it these days, which is even more of a reason we do not like to wait for a special day to go somewhere we’ve always wanted to try. So then why be that way with someone you love or are who you are wanting to spend time with… just go.
Make any day special that way. Especially with Nicole and I always working, we’re lucky to get literally one night off together a week, so we try to go out to either dinner that night or brunch that day. Either to try a new place we’ve heard about or one that holds a warm spot for us. Fancy or mellow, it doesn’t matter, because WE ARE TOGETHER. Crazy concept huh?
Ever hear of the term “Date Night?” Of course, who hasn’t? That not only applies to couples going out just as much as people just starting to date, but remembering there are nights other than just Friday and Saturday.
There are seven nights in the week, all with something you can find to enjoy together. A concert, a play, a movie, a comedy show… you get the idea, finding something to do with each other.
Lastly, as Valentine’s Day falls this year on a Thursday, I’ve seen so many scramble to figure out what they’re going to do on this DAY. Well, why just this day and or night? Why not the weekend?
Maybe it’s too late now, but Valentine’s falls on a Friday in 2020. So maybe plan on taking your loved one away for a surprise romantic weekend before or even after next year’s Valentine‘s Day? Especially if it’s harder to get out during the week if you both work, what a great excuse to go away for the weekend… JOURNEY!
Anyone that knows Nicole and me, know we live to travel. It holds the trifecta to my blog… “JOURNEY.” Nowhere have we had more romance than in our travels. Our second date was to San Diego & Mexico… yup. Nicole took me to Scottsdale, Arizona for my Birthday when we first started dating, then once on a mid-week cruise out of San Diego to Cabo San Lucas for another Birthday. I proposed to her on a jetty on a secluded beach in Jamaica.
We were married at a private estate on the beach just outside of Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.
Spent our 1 Year Wedding Anniversary and belated Honeymoon in Puerto Rico.
In fact, on our very first date, I asked her where in the entire world she would like to travel to, and she said one day she wanted to see Tuscany. So for our 2 Year Wedding Anniversary, we spent 2 weeks in Italy, starting off in Rome,
then off to Tuscany in Siena and Florence…
and then ending up in the most romantic city in the world, Venice.
Best of all with that trip? We did it with our best friends Jennifer & Tracy who had never really gotten a chance to do a real honeymoon, and other than going to Puerto Vallarta for our wedding hadn’t been out of the States. Now the travel bug hit them, and they’ve been traveling and discovering what two people seeing what this world has to offer together is all about.
Yes, those are some pretty big trips. But there were endless small ones done in between and we continue to do at a moment’s notice. The countless trips to Disneyland, drives out to Palm Springs,
as mentioned San Diego, plus Santa Barbara and Ventura,
a little more up the coast to quaint Solvang,
Las Vegas, quick boat rides to Catalina Island and weekend cruises to Mexico. We’re in Los Angeles, and if you are too, take advantage of that, or wherever you live, go out and do more with whomever you care about. Take your next day off or two together and go overnight somewhere, JOURNEY… “just because.”
I’ve been lucky enough to have someone like Nicole to share my life in this way, and I know I can’t be the only one. Use this Valentine’s Day to remember you actually don’t need Valentine’s Day to either say “I Love You” or to show someone just how much you care about them. Do it whenever, for no reason other than, “just because”… just because you do love and care about them.